“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes for you”
– Tony Robbins
For most of my life I had expectations for other people. My family, my friends, just people in general. I know we all have expectations however for me it was a bit different. I had a rather unconventional childhood for many reasons and I guess because of that I expected that the world, my parents, and others owed me for that.
Unfortunately this set me back a few years. I’m still young at this point in my life, but boy do I wish I would’ve came to this realization at a younger age.
Most people go through life with dreams of grander. We are all capable of it, however we must first come to the realization that nobody and I mean NOBODY will help you achieve them. If you want something in life, you need to get your ass off of the couch and go get it. It’s as simple as that. However something as simple as that can seem so complicated when you’re still expecting people to help you. I understand that better than anyone.
I saw many of my friends and how their parents did everything for them. It made me expect my family to help me pay for my student loans or to help me get clients and I didn’t go out and do it myself.
A couple of years ago while I was traveling in Europe I found one of the freelance websites that I use today sometimes to find work and I kept saying I’m going to create an account and try to find work. I never did. It became so bad that I even ran out of money while I was traveling. I expected my dad or my mom to help me get out of a tight spot and luckily my moms boyfriend at the time helped me get back home. It’s a terrible feeling when you can’t take care of yourself like that.
A few months later, after years of my dad and I talking about me moving to work with him. I finally did so and it didn’t turn out the way I expected again. However I’m very thankful for that. A few months into working with my dad I finally had the realization that I needed to stop expecting things from others and it was probably the best day of my life.
I finally created that account on the freelance website. My dad gave me $10 to create my account and encouraged me like he had always done to try. I started working and I worked hard. I mean I was writing tens of proposals per day, doing work for less than minimum wage just to get a portfolio. It felt great.
I remember making a mistake on one of the first jobs I took on and I had doubts in my mind about quitting. I thought maybe this isn’t right for me. Maybe I’m not good enough, but I stuck with it. I was honest with my client and everything was fine. I pulled through and today I’m happy to say that I’ve got a very successful business and have learned so much from that time.
The funny thing about all this is that every single one of us has what it takes at any moment to succeed. We just don’t realize it.
With all that being said if you’re expecting other people to help you. No matter how old you are, just stop. You’ll be much happier when you become successful from your own two hands than if someone hands it to you (if that ever even happens). It’s time to follow through with your plans and just do it.