NOTHING PREPARED ME for the overwhelming feeling I had when I stepped off the plane in London back in March. A sense of relief ran through my body. I was back where I belonged. I was safe again. I thought this strange, though, seeing as I had never stepped foot in England before.
A week later, when I had to leave my hostel room in Oxford and go back to Israel I realized it had nothing to do with England itself. I finally understood I was unhappy about a thing or two in life and that I should take control of it before it gets too late.
I love Israel, but loving a place is not a good enough reason to live in it. I felt that I am not fulfilling my potential while being a professional athlete serving the IDF (Israeli Defense Forces), I felt I needed some space from all the politics and bullshit decisions made by the Israeli Rowing Federation and I wanted to have a fresh start.
Also, I had to get away from my family. I love my family to bits , but sometimes you need to get away for a while to let yourself do things on you own in a relaxed and peaceful way . So I ended up making it into Oxford Brookes University Rowing Team and renting a flat with a couple of new friends in Oxford, England.
I took a risk, I left everything and moved-in to a different country without knowing anyone . And it was the best gift I ever gave to myself.
Going through that inspired me to put together a list of small ways to make a big change in your life .
Sounds cheesy buy… First of all, before getting to the list : Appreciate what you have in your life on a daily basis.
We scroll through Instagram and marvel over the adventurous and perfectly filtered lives of our “friends” or get suffocated by our to-do list at work, our minds start to harp on what we wish we had (more time to sleep or the money to take a 3 weeks long vacation to Costa Rica). Stop focusing on what other people achieve and start focusing on your goals and what you aspire to achieve.
Losers focus on winners,
Winners focus on winning. “
Identify and understand what you want to change
Whenever you decide to make a change, you must first understand why you’re making the change in the first place. you should start by defining your core values and identify what is important to you. If your goal aligns with your core values, then the thought of it will trigger a positive gut feeling.
Rid your life of negativity
This is not as simple as it may sound. If you’re surrounded by negativity, then how can you expect to have a positive and joyful life? In fact, those who are negative or surrounded by negativity are more stressed, get sick more often, and have less opportunities than those who are positive.
Of course, that’s easier said than done, but by surrounding yourself with positive people and approaching problems with positive actions and solutions – you can make things a bit easier for you.
Exercise more often
I know, I know. You’re tired of hearing that and working out makes you sweat and you’ve had SUCH a long day… but move your ass and get it done. You’ll thank yourself later.
You need to challenge yourself physically , take care of your body , so you’ll build more confidence as well as get your mind to think of something else for an hour or two.
Eliminate the non-essentials
After identifying the things that are most important in your life, it’s time to start eliminating everything else. This is all about simplifying your life, so that you can focus on the things that matter most to you and prevents you from getting distracted. We end up doing a lot of things that aren’t really important to us, because we have so much other stuff to do that has crept into our lives and that we leave in our lives, unexamined.
Take baby steps
When we look at the big picture we can get overwhelmed with all of the steps involved in achieving a goal. break the big picture goal down into systematic, manageable baby steps.
This will help you achieve that change that you’ve been seeking in a positive and meaningful way.
Change is painful. Growth is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong. “